Monday, January 12, 2009

RIP Shell Belle

Thursday Morning at apprx 2am The Hub's mom died.

It was a huge shock.. no one expected it quite this fast.

It's been a very heartbreaking week all around. I'm very grately that he was able to be home and spend the last week of her life with her. I wish I would've been able to be home to support him. Unfortunitely that didn't happen.

As I wrote in my last post the doctors had given her a longer life expectancy than it actually turned out to be. After surgery everyone was very positive that she would be able to have somewhat of a coherent quality of life. The first 2 days after surgery, she was able to somewhat talk ,sit up and eat very puree'd food.

Unfortunitely she ended up having an Acute Mol Siezure.(i think I spelled that right).

After that she basically stopped responding and stopped eating.. the doctors told my Hub and family she had about 48 hours. They moved her into hospice and tried to make her as comfortable as possible. The Hub, his dad and his sis.. basically moved into the Hospital and waited. Almost exactly 48 hours from the time of the last prognosis.. she went to sleep for the last time.

Shell was a kick ass lady. She was well loved and will be greatly missed. She pulled no punches and took no shit from anyone. Hub's from a very small town and his family has lived there for decades. She used to own the only beauty parlor in town. She cut everyone's hair and knew everyone. Hub's mom and dad have been together since she was 14 and he was 17 and have shared everything together. I can't even begin to imagine what his loss must be like. When the Hub and I first started dating years ago, she used to call me a cradle-robber cuz I was 20 and he was 18. She'd say that I was always out to corrupt her little boy, if she only knew it was already too late.

I'm sorry that she won't be able to see her grandkids grow up.I'm sad the punkin will have no memories of her grandma. Shell was so excited about us moving so close to home. I'm so sorry and sad for my Hubby's loss..I know he is being so strong for his family... and I wish there was more I could do for him. I can't imagine what the rest of our lives are going to be like without her. It's very sad.


Now in the next 3 days,opposed to sending him home,they are sending him back to Iraq... for less than a month. Basically he gets theres packs up and then gets sent here. Give a guy a break... he just lost his mom and he's got less than a month left of his deployment. I'm worried. I'm afraid he's gonna completely flip his shit when he gets back there. Seriously, what a waste of time and taxpayer money. I think the whole thing is just ridiculous... and I would love to see the Army just once NOT be a bunch of douschebags. That'll never happen.


Kat said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Also, thanks for the shout out on my blog.

Ana said...

I'm so sorry she didn't get the time they had hoped she would! And, yeah, how craptastic of the Army to just ship him back to Iraq. The military is full of bleeding hearts, that's for sure.

..::Mrs. Staff Sergeant::.. said...

Oh this is so sad. I'm sorry for your loss!

I cannot believe they're sending him back to Iraq right now. Ridiculous! ugh.

jlc said...

Omg I'm so sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are with you guys...

Ann M. said...

I am so sorry. I knew from your last post that her prognosis wasn't good, but that doesn't make it any less painful or sad.

And I'm really sorry that the Army is being so stupid about the whole thing. They should be kissing the boots of every single soldier right now who is on deployment, not making things harder for them.

ProblemChild said...

I read your blog from start to finish last night and have already determined I really like you.

I'm sorry for your loss, and your worry about your hubby as well.

I, too, live here in Hawaii, on Schofield actually. My hubby was a medic before now, and a Marine before that.

I've enjoyed your blog. Don't quit. And I'll keep your family in my prayers about your loss.

DarryleP said...

I lost my mom too at a young age and my children never knew her so I know how sad and huge a loss this is. But fortunately we are all resilient, as you sound, and a your husband and child surely are. You sound very strong and I'm sure you are an enormous source of strength for your husband. I agree with you and never understand how or why the army does the things it does. But I admire greatly people like you and your husband who serve so proudly despite all of that. You will all be in my hearts.

The Mrs. said...

So very sorry for your familys loss. She seems like she was one incredible lady and no doubt your daughter will grow up hearing stories about her.

How much time off do you think the folks in washington get off for a death in the family.... More then your husband I'm sure. Who knows what their logic is, althought logic never has been their strong suit.

ABW said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.